So I’ve had a couple of bad break-ups throughout my dating life but 2 really stick out 1) my first love 2) the guy I dated for 9 years.
A bit of background:
First love guy was my first for everything. First time I held hands with a boy, first kiss, first…you get the idea. We were young and just kids having fun in high school but man I was smitten. Fast forward to a few years after college. He tries to reconnect with me. At first I was overjoyed and excited that fate brought us back together. Soon after it was apparent we were not made for each other. He was lazy, opportunistic, and old fashioned in his beliefs (expect for that he wanted me to have babies, go back to work, and HE would be the stay at home Dad because he didn’t want to work). The last thing he said to me was that I was making a mistake for not wanting to be with him and that he would marry up. I thought that was an odd thing to say but whatever, I never looked back.
Flash forward to today. He indeed married up. His wife is an anesthesiologist and he has a pretty good paying job as well (that I helped him get btw since he only has his associates degree that took him 4 years to get) but I digress.
I was kind of shocked what someone so highly educated saw in him. He’s mean, disrespectful, lewd, etc but I thought, good for him. He got what he wanted. Well today I found out he’s separated from his wife of just barely 2 years and they have a 9 month old daughter. He’s living in their half a million dollar house while she moved back in with her parents. I feel sorry for his wife. I hope she doesn’t have to pay him alimony. Ultimately, the reason they separated was because she thought he was too primitive (those were the exact words my source used). In the back of my mind I think this could have been his plan all along. Snag a highly successful girl, knock her up, and reap the benefits. I wouldn’t put it past him.
Next up is the the guy I dated for 9 years I met my junior year of high school and dated through to a few years post college. Make a very long story short…I gave him the ultimatum at the beginning of our 9th year of dating. We either get married or we break up. Well he took the ENTIRE year to come to the conclusion that he didn’t want to marry me…soooo we broke up in December of that year. Come to find out shortly thereafter, he was actually cheating on me with many others during most of our relationship. We grew up just a few towns over from each other but I moved around the midwest for my job and landed in Chicago. He stayed in his hometown so we never really crossed paths. Well today my mother sees him at Panera! She gasped and out loud said, OH MY GOD! She marched right over to him and proceeded to tell him that he took the best years of my life and that what he did was despicable. She said he sat there mostly stunned and muttered out that he was young and made mistakes. My mom said well thank goodness that God had a plan and everything turned out how it was supposed to. He is actually single with a 5.5 year old. He knocked up a girl after we broke up. He then was engaged to another girl a few years later and then she broke off the engagement. Karma is a bitch.
Ok universe, I don’t want any more updates on old ex-boyfriends. I have had my fill for a while but man today’s gossip was juicy!